Balance. There’s that word again.
I think as much fun as the summer is, it brings a lot of stress. There are a ton of fun activities going on, trips to plan, and keeping on a routine and sticking with goals can get really tough. That stress is often projected onto other people.
Over the last few weeks, I’ve had other people bring this up to me. Asking for advice, or even criticizing how other people decide to balance their lives. “You don’t know what it is like to have kids.” “She doesn’t know what it’s like to work full time AND plan a wedding.”
You are right.
But you don’t know what it is like to be me either. Or her. Or that guy over there.
I always find it intriguing how interested people are in what other people do with their time. If it is not affecting me, I try to not dwell. Sure, I’d like to be around people I care about as much as I can, but if my priorities and goals don’t fit into their plans (or vice versa) I don’t sweat it. There can be a line where this becomes disrespectful but for the most part I like to believe that people do what they think is right. And what works for them.
I have a lot of old friends I have visited since moving to Philadelphia. Most of them won’t reciprocate and make the trip here. And that’s ok. I know that. This use to upset me, but I was talking with a friend about this the other day and realized that outlook on it is incredibly destructive. I don’t do things to get paid back. I do them because I want to, and I enjoy the time that I have got to spend with them.
I’ve found myself criticizing at times too. It’s hard when I hear people complain about a situation that they ARE in control of. When it comes to fitting in health and fitness, it IS hard. But it is also simple. It takes dedication. Like anything that you care about, you have to make it a priority.
I’ve been trying to really focus on within. I haven’t been sleeping very well the last week or so, and my dreams have been really real. I think a lot of this is the stress I carry from other people I care about. Once again, I’m going to try to send them good energy and then focus on myself. I can’t always fix things.