Rose: Why Self Care is Really About Self Love

I wrote about self care the other day in my challenge group. Few people responded. I’ve been grappling with why.

Maybe the post was too long. Or maybe it was too hippie-dippy. Maybe I’m just not that engaging.

I’m also wondering if maybe the concept of self care is difficult. Self care can really only begin with self love, and it takes some work. It requires you to be a little selfish, putting some needs above others. Generally speaking, I don’t think people like being that way.

SELFLOVEIt’s hard for me, anyway. I know there are certain things I should do just for me, but I don’t do them. Of course, they would likely make me happier. But I often get consumed by doing other things. Usually for other people.

It’s gotten easier with age, of course. But I still need reminders. And maybe you do, too, which is why I’m sharing this post from my group. Maybe it will help one of you on your journey. Maybe you’ll read it at the right time. Or maybe it won’t click now, but later, it will make more sense.

Light & Love,


Why Self Care = Self Love

When we were developing this group, self care was at the top of many of your lists. We weren’t surprised by this. In this world, it feels like there’s so little time. It’s a point of pride to have a full plate, especially if you’re a woman. This can feel overwhelming and daunting. It can feel like there’s no time for just you.

The first step in self care comes in the form of self love, however. When you truly love yourself, things fall into place. The sooner you start embracing that love and treating yourself right, the sooner your life will begin to with compassion, purpose and love.

It can be hard to unroot some of the beliefs you have about yourself. These may stem from childhood, and they may be so ingrained you don’t even realize it. But there are some simple ways to start loving yourself todays.

Here are a few ways I try to practice:

  • End criticism of self. Accept yourself as you are.
  • Forgive yourself. Whatever happened in the past, let it go.
  • Be kind to your self and your mind. Bad thoughts are just those – thoughts. If they bother you, gently change the thoughts.
  • Praise and support yourself. Give yourself a high-five. If you need outside help, find a person or group that can help to lift you up.
  • Be loving  with your own needs. You have needs, and that’s fine. Now, find ways to fill those and lovingly let go of old negative patterns.
  • Take care of your body. Treat your body as a temple. It will help the rest fall into place.
  • Look into the mirror lovingly. Instead of finding a fault, consider what you love about yourself. You might even want to say, “I love you!”

Today, try at least one of these. If you’re feeling ambitious, try several. See how it influences your mood.


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