Rose: Calm Down Already

I think I need to follow my own advice. I haven’t been very good at “saying no” lately. This has left me working non-stop from the minute I wake up until about 9 p.m. at night. I’m not sure how this happened? Did I say yes to too many things? (Yes.) Am I not setting up very good boundaries? (Probably.) Am I going to burn out? (I hope not.) I keep telling myself to slow down, take a deep breath and surround myself with calm. But it’s just not working. Maybe I need to Google “calming techniques” like Jenna did last week.


I know I am not alone in this feeling of needing to “do it all.” In many ways, I am a workhorse, so I don’t want to quit until a job is done. I am also a joiner, so my hand is the first raised when someone asks, “Can you help?” This can be a deadly combination.

I’ve been reading the book Flux, and I’m amazed at how so many women struggle with these same issues. How do you have it all? How do you have a full-time job, a family, hobbies, friends and keep moving forward?

You have to give some things up. It seems to be all about picking what makes you the happiest and then weeding out the rest from there.

While I don’t feel at a place to do this just yet, it’s coming. I’m hoping that once September rolls around, things will be a bit calmer (at least in my personal life). Vacations will be done. The traveling will be over. My fitness challenge groups will have wound down. Fall will begin, and perhaps that will bring with it a renewed spirit.

In an attempt to calm down at least temporarily, I asked myself: what would make me happy and calm? I sent an email around to a few local friends and planned a get-together at my place. No phone. No computer. No email. Just me, M, my pals and the balcony. After all, I want to enjoy it before summer is over.

What calming techniques do you use?